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Psst! Hey Christian man, I found a secret… You CAN make a woman happy! But because of lack of education man fails!

Yes! Christian men I found a secret…you really CAN make a woman happy….but because of lack of education man fails at it… Actually God said through Hosea 4:6 for lack of knowledge or rejection of it my people are destroyed. ….

Me I personally like to learn about all God made, and says. Do you? … The way Adam was intended by God to go and do in the garden. What you say?? Well (Gen 1:28) God actually told us, that He intended “us” to actually subdue, and have dominion over the earth. But first God put man in the Garden (Gen2:15) to work in it, a place to learn, a beginning of understanding for us. And God does not change! He still intends “US” to learn to subdue..and then have dominion over the earth!

And that is why the 2nd thing God gave man, was a woman a “a private garden of his own to learn more deeply first”… (Remember devil came and fall happened in Gen3, but as believers we are restored to “same” relationship before the fall, and same intent of God to subdue the earth!) but right now as in Gen 2 “the man is given a goal to work on”;

And it is stated for “us” again now in 1Pet3, just remember God constantly watches over us, and knows us, searching our hearts by His Spirit, and Jesus constantly intercedes for us… because His Spirit “studies us to understand us deeply, more deeply than we know ourselves” …

Men we like goals and need goals to reach for, we like lists to cross off  to “conquer” ! (Ladies seem to know this…LOL. )

So God gave a goal, He “commanded” husbands to do the same exactly, as Christ does through His Spirit for us. Our goal is in 1Pet3:7 dwell with wives with understanding (“that is intelligent recognition of marriage”… the Greek words are “synoikeō” dwell with intimately “Kata” privately with ones own “gnōsis”- ( primarily )seeking to know, an enquiry, investigation”..(understand);

So the goal of man is to be …. Like Christ …To dwell intimately deeply privately with her alone, to  investigate and enquire, and seek to know her deepest thoughts, feelings, hopes, the knowledge of her true inner self. That he may intercede on her behalf;  To give glory to God, as Christ does with “us” His church! And that agrees with Ephesians chap 5, and with love does not seek it’s own in (1Cor13:4-8)

Sound like mission impossible to you?… “think that music now” dun dun …Dun Dun..dun dun; … Should you except this mission remember…YOU! Are Empowered with His divine power (see 2Pet1:3)…by the HOLY GHOST! And ALL knowledge of you is remembered by Him, and access to His knowledge was given you!

So you can only fail to have a “quiet and undisturbed life”, if YOU do not attempt to learn and walk in knowledge of Truth! (Or we, or our “works” like hay and stubble, get destroyed.. 1Cor3:12-15)

1Tim2:2-4- For kings and all who are in positions of authority or high responsibility, …that [outwardly] we may pass a “quiet and undisturbed life” [and inwardly] a peaceable one in all godliness and reverence and seriousness in every way.
3 For such [praying] is good and right, and [it is] pleasing and acceptable to God our Savior,
4 Who wishes all men to be saved “and” [increasingly] to perceive and recognize and discern and know precisely and correctly the [divine] Truth.”

Why is divorce rate so high?. Why are marriages destroyed;  Are we seeker’s of Truth? Or self?? …Bible says “Seek first the kingdom of God” and His righteousness, and all shall be added to you! …Mat6:33 said so…said for God… “to us” today!

Remember your life is the Lord’s, and you are here to conqueror for Him…to subdue the earth. You need to study deeply to know, and to do that. (2Tim 2:15) says…”study to show yourself approved workman unto God”. …Must do same thing with woman to be like Jesus with church His bride, “study her” to live with a wife with understanding, and that will also help YOU learn to conquer the earth!…

God does not change! (Mal 3:6)…He has no shadow of turning. (James 1:17).

Men did you notice? Men CAN think deeply and intelligently!… Only need too DO IT ! That is not a Nike ad… It is Determined Obedience Intentional Trust!… In God! His unfailing Truth!, and in His Spirit empowering you!

SO learn to hate what God hates, BUT also “learn” to Love like He loves!. … He loves “you” His church, like His bride, and understands you deeply….So MEN you CAN Do It…. You can make your church happy… Joyful! As saying goes Happy wife..Happy life! Remember 1Tim 2:2 above… “a quiet undisturbed life”… Just like your own garden of Eden.

Now if your married go tend your garden! If your a single man go read bible and learn how to tend your own garden, to be prepared to love like Christ. “sacrificially” and knowledgeably ! …and you will be glad you did. God said so!  Because God don’t change! And He also said before the fall it is not good for man to be alone! (Gen 2:18)… So single man of God …Study and get ready! Be prepared!

And what should wives do?….Love their husbands, and discover how to “help” their husbands learn of them, and become the conquerors of the world together as God intended us to all look like and be….but husbands do not have to be mind readers, as only God can do that, (not the devil).

But God will “tell us” and, “teach us all things” (1John 2:27 ), if we seek Him for understanding. Jesus is our shepherd and He will feed us with knowledge and understanding if we seek to follow Him and know Him closely “remain”, “abide in”.  And God gives same type of shepherds to His church. Jer 3:15Nasb- “Then I will give you shepherds after My own heart, who will feed you on knowledge and understanding.”… As husbands with a bride….

Because YOU… CAN, clearly follow the narrow road & stay in the light…of God’s Word.

Pastor Ernie Harpster 

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Psssst…Christian Single men… You desire a wife?… Do you believe Father God wants to give YOU a wife? Why?

Psst… Hey Christian single men you desire a wife? Then our only goal has to become… to be like Jesus. To enjoy His presence so much we do not care if we are single… Not because we want to remain single,  but because like Adam we can trust God! And when “we” are doing the best job of surrendering our desires to be His desires, He will not change. Because God does not change (Mal 3:6)!

And so God will “bring” a wife to you like He did Adam…a lady who will see the Jesus in You, and desire to walk with you, and never want to be apart from you; Like YOU should always feel with Jesus.

And because YOU trust Gods words …and God said…”It is not good for  man be alone”.(Gen 2;18).. So then “you” just need to “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness “(right living, right actions )(Mat 6:33 see Amplified) and “ALL” things shall be added to you… ALL things He desires YOU to have… God did not change!

So if you “want” a wife, He will bring one into your life…OR… He will take the desire for one away! But If you do HAVE the desire for a wife, then YOU CAN ABSOLUTLEY KNOW He is working on it!… In His time not yours, so trust Him!

And Guys! God does NOT tempt us! (James 1:13) God designed Marriage,(Gen 2:22-25) and therefore marriage like “God designed”, is a Godly desire, not of Satan, so trust God’s word, and His Father heart toward you. And just pray for the woman (church) who is you future wife (bride), that she is learning quickly, whatever God is trying to teach her on the journey to you now! So He can give her to you to be like Jesus toward her, and so she will recognize you that way!

Exactly as you and she were “designed” to do… When God made “your plan” to walk in! (Eph 2:10) And you’ll agree to walk your plans together. (Amos 3:3) No human walks with another unless they agree. And Christians must agree on the word as unchanging, and never wrong. So study it… It will train you. (2Tim 3:16) Preparing “you” for what ..or “whom” He is bringing into your life plan!

Abraham sent His servant to find a wife (Rebecca) to BRING to his son (Isaac) exactly where Isaac was suppose to be working, as he was in the field where the Father told him to be. … God don’t change. IF you desire a wife, then Father has sent His Holy Spirit (servant) to find a wife..to bring to you… And like Rebecca He is teaching her how to live and work with you on the journey toward you. (Read the story dude! Gen24 ) Trust God…He does not change… YOU need to get ready to receive her!…Or it might be YOU that are making HER journey longer to you! ..Uummm.

Are YOU ready to be like Jesus?…To act as Christ is the head of the church and laid His life down for us? Like “we” men are to look in marriage. (Eph 5:25)…Uummm.

And can YOU love her ? …Not by “your definition” but by God’s definition as written in (1Cor 13:4-8)…. Uummm. Do YOU read and STUDY the word to show yourself approved workman unto God?… And do you listen to Father God carefully… to be exactly “where” He wants you daily to be standing?…. Isaac always did as His Father told him. …Uummm.

Is YOUR goal to bring more glory to the Father and have a marriage that actually looks like His image of Christ and the church?  Or is it really to satisfy your own flesh desires?  And not really to allow God to multiply your efforts together, as two who “act as one” to glorify the Father greater than you can as a single. As bible teaches one can chase a thousand and two ten thousand… In Christ’s power, and following the Fathers will.

So if you have the desire for a wife…and we can see then that God actually desires to give you one…then don’t ask God where is she….Ask your self  why… Why would God not want to bring you a wife yet? He will show you…. And then pray you change that with Holy Spirit’s help… to be more like His image. … Because God does not change, but “we” are suppose too! So we can look more like Christ in this world! ( Rom 8:29 ) And then “we” will know how to treasure the daughter of God, that He brings “us” to cherish… Like Christ does His bride… the church.

Think about it… Or don’t,… and end up part of a sad statistic in the church where our divorce rate is now higher than the worlds;

Of course part of that is because “they” mostly now live together in the world, and do not marry. But God’s way is always better… His desire and plan is always for our best! (Jer 29:11-12) Trust Him to His word…the word does not change (Isa 40:8), just like He “God” does not change… But do YOU believe that?

Then clearly follow the narrow road…. stay in the light!  And He will not leave you alone on that road! He promised and He don’t change! (James 1:17)  Pastor Ernie

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Famous “last” words of wisdom, spoken by Christian Singles….And Painfully true for those who go “missionary dating”… As seen by the “Church” divorce statistics.

I was looking at a sad cartoon commentary regarding what is commonly referenced as “missionary dating” by singles in the “Church”; But I can attest as a Pastor to those relationships mostly not working out for good…. And it usually started with these famous words …ignored by the one who was peaking them!

“I know I should not be a missionary dater and I probably shouldn’t be with them by looking at them…but I think God wants to use me to change them…and God said He wants me to love them.”  If YOU ever hear yourself saying these words…. ALWAYS ask yourself… Does GOD change? Mal 3:6, and Heb 13:8….both say not ever…

So then; When God, sent YOU… “His words” to guide and protect you…Then what, or whom are you choosing to believe… If any “thought” does not agree with His word??….What is it? Uummm…
God said to all Christians especially those contemplating marriage this….

2Cor 6:14- Here in Amplified as closer to Greek intent-“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers [do not make mismated alliances with them or come under a different yoke with them, inconsistent with your faith]. For what partnership have right living and right standing with God with iniquity and lawlessness? Or how can light have fellowship with darkness?”

As we know God does not change (Mal 3:6)… Then for YOU… to do anything that knowingly goes against God IS sin of rebellion! So if you already know the person by there fruit’s…. As Jesus taught us TO DO! (Mat 7:16)…And yet you deceive yourself  by that statement made above that included similar words to “God wants me to change them.”(1Cor 15:33 )… Then why do you think God would also still answer your prayers??

If you have rejected His words! That is “If” you do not first repent…”return to Him” and His word that was sent to guide you,”and lead you”…so you could safely follow Him….then what makes you think He listens? Again I say “if” you don’t repent “change of mind and direction”…why would He listen to what you ask and want??

Read these verses carefully…

John 9:31- We know that God does not hear sinners; but if anyone is God-fearing and does His will, He hears him…. And;
Isa 1:13-15Nasb-“When you come to appear before Me,
Who requires of you this trampling of My courts?
13 “Bring your worthless offerings no longer,
Incense is an abomination to Me.
New moon and sabbath, the calling of assemblies—
I cannot endure iniquity and the solemn assembly.
14 “I hate your new moon festivals and your appointed feasts,
They have become a burden to Me;
I am weary of bearing them.
15 “So when you spread out your hands in prayer,
I will hide My eyes from you;
Yes, even though you multiply prayers,
I will not listen.
Your hands are covered with blood.” …And most Christians know (See 2Chron 7:14 !);
But did you notice the order of wording of that famous verse? Which says “if” my people… will “humble”, TURN from, and Pray…THEN I will hear. Uummm……

And do not forget David! If anyone knew about suffering from wrong relationship choices “knowingly!” It was King David who said in…
Psalm 66:18-“If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me:” …

And remember the ramification of David’s sin began with just a lingering look “his visual senses,” that he did not stop to control, that led to the eventual consequence he suffered through, which was exceedingly painful…and dangerous! He could have been stoned for adultery and murder by the law! God gave him Mercy… others in bible were not as fortunate! And Hosea 4:6 says for lack of knowledge… OR for “rejection of knowledge” my people are destroyed… Think on that a minute.

We have grace, and yes we are to share it, and God’s love (correctly)…But Grace does not ever allow “us” license to go against God’s word…that is sin… We are suppose to be His as slaves to righteousness (Rom 6:18)…. bought by a price! (1Cor 6:19-20 ) And suppose to Guard our hearts too! (Prov 4:23)
But Paul said by the Holy Spirit, when asked if we should sin to make grace abound… He answered…God forbid! (Rom 6:15). So be not deceived God is not mocked!  Do you know what that really means?  Here is what that verse actually means as intended by the Greek words.                                                                                                          Gal6:7Amplified-“Do not be deceived and deluded and misled; God will not allow Himself to be sneered at (scorned, disdained, or mocked by mere pretensions or professions, or by His precepts being set aside.) [He inevitably deludes himself who attempts to delude God.] For whatever a man sows, that and that only is what he will reap.”

Also do not ever forget if “we” as believers start down a wrong road…BUT we change direction in thought and action “repent”, turn to God…”seek Him”. He hears from heaven and heals, and delivers, and restores “us” who believe, to the right path!….Through Jesus Christ… Whom “we” are to ALWAYS be like sheep with, and follow His voice.

Do not allow your “flesh” to use the five senses as “entrances” to your body, which we were told is the “temple” of God; And do not allow your flesh (which is desires and appetites for this worlds system), to rule over the Spirit of God! (Gal 5;16, Rom 6;12 ) Take authority over it! And walk in the SPirit as a Child of God! (Rom 8;14 )

The Word and Spirit ALWAYS agree… and ALWAYS leads to a higher life for believers… Not down to death, (John 6:63) And Spirit always remains in the Light!… Darkness and light have no fellowship! God said so… Did you see that in first paragraph above in 2Cor 6:14! The question then is…Do you believe God, and follow Him? Do YOUR own fruits (actions) say you do? …Do you follow the narrow road and stay in the light? !

Remember God ALWAYS loves you, and through Jesus Christ you are, or can be restored to the plan that God ALWAYS had for mankind as displayed in the garden with Adam and Eve… and it was there in garden, “before sin” entered that God spoke and said, “It is NOT good for man to be alone”….and God.. brought Eve… to Adam.(Gen 2:18-22)

So then trust God to lead you to a right relationship! One that agrees with the word and remains in the light! …Because…God does not change! And notice most in bible were married… only a few made the CHOICE to stay single… and ONLY one in whole bible I find was ordered by God to remain single… Jeremiah. So have hope! And Faith! …They go together! With Love! ( 1Cor 13:13)

If you have a desire for a relationship with opposite sex, then it must only be with the intent of a marriage relationship, or don’t start it! Guard your heart because your relationship desire shall be…”when it is in God’s time, and then It WILL happen for you… By Father God Who makes ALL things beautiful in His time! (Eccl 3:11) Hey if you know it is not good for YOU to be alone …So does God!!! :)
And it will be according to His word…if you follow…Because God does NOT change! Trust Him. Amen! Just make sure your waiting in the light!…Because as for myself a single Christian man I would not ever consider looking for you in the dark! Would you?

And if Jesus is Lord….We should clearly follow the narrow road and stay in the light! Pastor Ernie Harpster

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