Yes! Christian men I found a secret…you really CAN make a woman happy….but because of lack of education man fails at it… Actually God said through Hosea 4:6 for lack of knowledge or rejection of it my people are destroyed. ….
Me I personally like to learn about all God made, and says. Do you? … The way Adam was intended by God to go and do in the garden. What you say?? Well (Gen 1:28) God actually told us, that He intended “us” to actually subdue, and have dominion over the earth. But first God put man in the Garden (Gen2:15) to work in it, a place to learn, a beginning of understanding for us. And God does not change! He still intends “US” to learn to subdue..and then have dominion over the earth!
And that is why the 2nd thing God gave man, was a woman a “a private garden of his own to learn more deeply first”… (Remember devil came and fall happened in Gen3, but as believers we are restored to “same” relationship before the fall, and same intent of God to subdue the earth!) but right now as in Gen 2 “the man is given a goal to work on”;
And it is stated for “us” again now in 1Pet3, just remember God constantly watches over us, and knows us, searching our hearts by His Spirit, and Jesus constantly intercedes for us… because His Spirit “studies us to understand us deeply, more deeply than we know ourselves” …
Men we like goals and need goals to reach for, we like lists to cross off to “conquer” ! (Ladies seem to know this…LOL. )
So God gave a goal, He “commanded” husbands to do the same exactly, as Christ does through His Spirit for us. Our goal is in 1Pet3:7 dwell with wives with understanding (“that is intelligent recognition of marriage”… the Greek words are “synoikeō” dwell with intimately “Kata” privately with ones own “gnōsis”- ( primarily )seeking to know, an enquiry, investigation”..(understand);
So the goal of man is to be …. Like Christ …To dwell intimately deeply privately with her alone, to investigate and enquire, and seek to know her deepest thoughts, feelings, hopes, the knowledge of her true inner self. That he may intercede on her behalf; To give glory to God, as Christ does with “us” His church! And that agrees with Ephesians chap 5, and with love does not seek it’s own in (1Cor13:4-8)
Sound like mission impossible to you?… “think that music now” dun dun …Dun Dun..dun dun; … Should you except this mission remember…YOU! Are Empowered with His divine power (see 2Pet1:3)…by the HOLY GHOST! And ALL knowledge of you is remembered by Him, and access to His knowledge was given you!
So you can only fail to have a “quiet and undisturbed life”, if YOU do not attempt to learn and walk in knowledge of Truth! (Or we, or our “works” like hay and stubble, get destroyed.. 1Cor3:12-15)
1Tim2:2-4- For kings and all who are in positions of authority or high responsibility, …that [outwardly] we may pass a “quiet and undisturbed life” [and inwardly] a peaceable one in all godliness and reverence and seriousness in every way.
3 For such [praying] is good and right, and [it is] pleasing and acceptable to God our Savior,
4 Who wishes all men to be saved “and” [increasingly] to perceive and recognize and discern and know precisely and correctly the [divine] Truth.”
Why is divorce rate so high?. Why are marriages destroyed; Are we seeker’s of Truth? Or self?? …Bible says “Seek first the kingdom of God” and His righteousness, and all shall be added to you! …Mat6:33 said so…said for God… “to us” today!
Remember your life is the Lord’s, and you are here to conqueror for Him…to subdue the earth. You need to study deeply to know, and to do that. (2Tim 2:15) says…”study to show yourself approved workman unto God”. …Must do same thing with woman to be like Jesus with church His bride, “study her” to live with a wife with understanding, and that will also help YOU learn to conquer the earth!…
God does not change! (Mal 3:6)…He has no shadow of turning. (James 1:17).
Men did you notice? Men CAN think deeply and intelligently!… Only need too DO IT ! That is not a Nike ad… It is Determined Obedience Intentional Trust!… In God! His unfailing Truth!, and in His Spirit empowering you!
SO learn to hate what God hates, BUT also “learn” to Love like He loves!. … He loves “you” His church, like His bride, and understands you deeply….So MEN you CAN Do It…. You can make your church happy… Joyful! As saying goes Happy wife..Happy life! Remember 1Tim 2:2 above… “a quiet undisturbed life”… Just like your own garden of Eden.
Now if your married go tend your garden! If your a single man go read bible and learn how to tend your own garden, to be prepared to love like Christ. “sacrificially” and knowledgeably ! …and you will be glad you did. God said so! Because God don’t change! And He also said before the fall it is not good for man to be alone! (Gen 2:18)… So single man of God …Study and get ready! Be prepared!
And what should wives do?….Love their husbands, and discover how to “help” their husbands learn of them, and become the conquerors of the world together as God intended us to all look like and be….but husbands do not have to be mind readers, as only God can do that, (not the devil).
But God will “tell us” and, “teach us all things” (1John 2:27 ), if we seek Him for understanding. Jesus is our shepherd and He will feed us with knowledge and understanding if we seek to follow Him and know Him closely “remain”, “abide in”. And God gives same type of shepherds to His church. Jer 3:15Nasb- “Then I will give you shepherds after My own heart, who will feed you on knowledge and understanding.”… As husbands with a bride….
Because YOU… CAN, clearly follow the narrow road & stay in the light…of God’s Word.
Pastor Ernie Harpster