I was looking at a sad cartoon commentary regarding what is commonly referenced as “missionary dating” by singles in the “Church”; But I can attest as a Pastor to those relationships mostly not working out for good…. And it usually started with these famous words …ignored by the one who was peaking them!
“I know I should not be a missionary dater and I probably shouldn’t be with them by looking at them…but I think God wants to use me to change them…and God said He wants me to love them.” If YOU ever hear yourself saying these words…. ALWAYS ask yourself… Does GOD change? Mal 3:6, and Heb 13:8….both say not ever…
So then; When God, sent YOU… “His words” to guide and protect you…Then what, or whom are you choosing to believe… If any “thought” does not agree with His word??….What is it? Uummm…
God said to all Christians especially those contemplating marriage this….
2Cor 6:14- Here in Amplified as closer to Greek intent-“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers [do not make mismated alliances with them or come under a different yoke with them, inconsistent with your faith]. For what partnership have right living and right standing with God with iniquity and lawlessness? Or how can light have fellowship with darkness?”
As we know God does not change (Mal 3:6)… Then for YOU… to do anything that knowingly goes against God IS sin of rebellion! So if you already know the person by there fruit’s…. As Jesus taught us TO DO! (Mat 7:16)…And yet you deceive yourself by that statement made above that included similar words to “God wants me to change them.”(1Cor 15:33 )… Then why do you think God would also still answer your prayers??
If you have rejected His words! That is “If” you do not first repent…”return to Him” and His word that was sent to guide you,”and lead you”…so you could safely follow Him….then what makes you think He listens? Again I say “if” you don’t repent “change of mind and direction”…why would He listen to what you ask and want??
Read these verses carefully…
John 9:31- We know that God does not hear sinners; but if anyone is God-fearing and does His will, He hears him…. And;
Isa 1:13-15Nasb-“When you come to appear before Me,
Who requires of you this trampling of My courts?
13 “Bring your worthless offerings no longer,
Incense is an abomination to Me.
New moon and sabbath, the calling of assemblies—
I cannot endure iniquity and the solemn assembly.
14 “I hate your new moon festivals and your appointed feasts,
They have become a burden to Me;
I am weary of bearing them.
15 “So when you spread out your hands in prayer,
I will hide My eyes from you;
Yes, even though you multiply prayers,
I will not listen.
Your hands are covered with blood.” …And most Christians know (See 2Chron 7:14 !);
But did you notice the order of wording of that famous verse? Which says “if” my people… will “humble”, TURN from, and Pray…THEN I will hear. Uummm……
And do not forget David! If anyone knew about suffering from wrong relationship choices “knowingly!” It was King David who said in…
Psalm 66:18-“If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me:” …
And remember the ramification of David’s sin began with just a lingering look “his visual senses,” that he did not stop to control, that led to the eventual consequence he suffered through, which was exceedingly painful…and dangerous! He could have been stoned for adultery and murder by the law! God gave him Mercy… others in bible were not as fortunate! And Hosea 4:6 says for lack of knowledge… OR for “rejection of knowledge” my people are destroyed… Think on that a minute.
We have grace, and yes we are to share it, and God’s love (correctly)…But Grace does not ever allow “us” license to go against God’s word…that is sin… We are suppose to be His as slaves to righteousness (Rom 6:18)…. bought by a price! (1Cor 6:19-20 ) And suppose to Guard our hearts too! (Prov 4:23)
But Paul said by the Holy Spirit, when asked if we should sin to make grace abound… He answered…God forbid! (Rom 6:15). So be not deceived God is not mocked! Do you know what that really means? Here is what that verse actually means as intended by the Greek words. Gal6:7Amplified-“Do not be deceived and deluded and misled; God will not allow Himself to be sneered at (scorned, disdained, or mocked by mere pretensions or professions, or by His precepts being set aside.) [He inevitably deludes himself who attempts to delude God.] For whatever a man sows, that and that only is what he will reap.”
Also do not ever forget if “we” as believers start down a wrong road…BUT we change direction in thought and action “repent”, turn to God…”seek Him”. He hears from heaven and heals, and delivers, and restores “us” who believe, to the right path!….Through Jesus Christ… Whom “we” are to ALWAYS be like sheep with, and follow His voice.
Do not allow your “flesh” to use the five senses as “entrances” to your body, which we were told is the “temple” of God; And do not allow your flesh (which is desires and appetites for this worlds system), to rule over the Spirit of God! (Gal 5;16, Rom 6;12 ) Take authority over it! And walk in the SPirit as a Child of God! (Rom 8;14 )
The Word and Spirit ALWAYS agree… and ALWAYS leads to a higher life for believers… Not down to death, (John 6:63) And Spirit always remains in the Light!… Darkness and light have no fellowship! God said so… Did you see that in first paragraph above in 2Cor 6:14! The question then is…Do you believe God, and follow Him? Do YOUR own fruits (actions) say you do? …Do you follow the narrow road and stay in the light? !
Remember God ALWAYS loves you, and through Jesus Christ you are, or can be restored to the plan that God ALWAYS had for mankind as displayed in the garden with Adam and Eve… and it was there in garden, “before sin” entered that God spoke and said, “It is NOT good for man to be alone”….and God.. brought Eve… to Adam.(Gen 2:18-22)
So then trust God to lead you to a right relationship! One that agrees with the word and remains in the light! …Because…God does not change! And notice most in bible were married… only a few made the CHOICE to stay single… and ONLY one in whole bible I find was ordered by God to remain single… Jeremiah. So have hope! And Faith! …They go together! With Love! ( 1Cor 13:13)
If you have a desire for a relationship with opposite sex, then it must only be with the intent of a marriage relationship, or don’t start it! Guard your heart because your relationship desire shall be…”when it is in God’s time, and then It WILL happen for you… By Father God Who makes ALL things beautiful in His time! (Eccl 3:11) Hey if you know it is not good for YOU to be alone …So does God!!!
And it will be according to His word…if you follow…Because God does NOT change! Trust Him. Amen! Just make sure your waiting in the light!…Because as for myself a single Christian man I would not ever consider looking for you in the dark! Would you?
And if Jesus is Lord….We should clearly follow the narrow road and stay in the light! Pastor Ernie Harpster